tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737633890176949647.post7910977515620034752..comments2023-08-22T10:06:28.678+01:00Comments on Discursive of Tunbridge Wells: Lawson vs Saatchi: How do victims and perpetrators find one another?CCCU Applied Psychologyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12127528347937708211noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737633890176949647.post-62040941377715633602014-09-01T02:59:12.566+01:002014-09-01T02:59:12.566+01:00Wow. Some serious misogynist victim-blaming there....Wow. Some serious misogynist victim-blaming there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737633890176949647.post-77110216875978222212013-12-06T20:08:19.081+00:002013-12-06T20:08:19.081+00:00As someone who was married to a narcissistic man w...As someone who was married to a narcissistic man who was sometimes abusive although never physically violent, I can perhaps understand some of Nigella's confusion right now. My family tried to persuade me over a period of years to leave my ex, but I found it very hard to do. It's extremely difficult to understand someone who can be as good as they are bad; and it's hard to leave someone with whom you have shared two decades of your life and many good things. To an extent, it's only human to overlook the bad stuff and close down around it in the hope that things get better. If it's tough-going to tear up your life even when you're an educated woman with alternatives, I can only imagine the difficulties of those who don't have many choices. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737633890176949647.post-7062416915064046902013-12-06T15:49:57.295+00:002013-12-06T15:49:57.295+00:00Oh dear. I seem to be the first again. Not intenti...Oh dear. I seem to be the first again. Not intentional I assure you! I struggle a bit to see Nigella as someone in this classic/serial abusee sort of way. It seemed to me, though of course I don't know, that her first husband was, for want of a better phrase, a good man. Still, I guess she must've been very vulnerable. for all her success she has had a great sadness in her life. It must be terrifying to find yourself in a relationship like that.Rosie Cnoreply@blogger.com